Your toddler does not want to bathe anymore, he refuses to get into the supermarket trolley and, in the street, he stubbornly refuses to give you a hand ... He opposes everything and you're done!
All children go through a phase of systematic opposition. This so-called "no" period, often difficult for you to live, usually starts around the age of 18 months. Be patient: this crisis is necessary because it allows your child to grow up. By opposing, he positions himself as a little being well differentiated from you, his parents.
Why he says no? Because he discovers, experiments, gropes
- Since the age of 8-10 months, your child has realized that he is a person in its own right. As the months go by, this perception becomes more and more a certainty.
- He experiments things without you and often without your permission: manipulate objects, move on your own and think for yourself.
- This new autonomy invites him to explore his own desires and to get away from yours. He has a feeling of omnipotence.
- He tests the power he can have on you. Saying "no" allows you to experiment and find new limits.
- He seeks to understand the rules of the house. To get a clear answer, he is able to push you to the end.
He says no to everything? Dedramate!
- Take a step back. Of course, it's not always easy to keep your cool when he makes a scene at the supermarket. But do you say that all parents pass by and that this scene does not question your skills as educators. This is a passage in your child's life and nothing more.
- Above all, learn to ignore the disapproving looks of adults. Stay firm. During the crisis, keep your cool.
- Be sure to let him scream and stamp.... tell him only that you have understood his anger, but that you will not give in.